Once the reporters stop inquiring, once the media turns to newer stories, the Krim family may (or may not) return to our neighborhood. If anyone is in contact with their family, I hope you will post comments here or get in touch with me so that we can help them in their daily lives once the spotlight is off of them. I do not know their religion, if any, but in Judaism, the customs (you can click on “coping with death” above) help mourners through the first 7 days, then the first 30 and the first year. Being sure that the people around them continue to show support and acknowledge their loss. I understand that this is not an ordinary loss and has certainly touched all of us in a deep way. I want to see if we can all behave as though we are marking these measurements of time, gradually leading toward a day not filled with tears and deep heart break.
If anyone knows if they can use the help from us nearby, some thoughts I had (and anyone, please chime in) are:
1. Deliver home-cooked meals to the immediate family, either at the hospital, a hotel or later, their home. There are websites that can help arrange schedules if anyone wants to volunteer to be the administrator: ie. http://www.lotsahelpinghands.com
2. I don’t know if the Krim family (including extended family) need places to stay or if hotels are being covered, but perhaps home hospitality would be welcome? Or if someone has a pied-à-terre they could offer…
3. Collect messages from the various websites, blogs, newspaper articles etc. so that, when the family is ready, they can read the outpouring of support that everyone has for them. My sister created a memory book for the children left paralyzed in Houston after their parents were killed in the same car accident and I know that the community was supportive of making a special book for the survivors. Maybe something like this.
There may already be an organized community who intimately know the family so I don’t want to duplicate efforts. I do know, that many families and many nannies read this blog and we all want to know how we can help. Please let me know if there is something that you’d like to see here.
I wish you all well,